Monday, December 04, 2006


I've heard people say that friends are few and far between.

Are they really?

I can't really agree with that, although when I was younger I wished for a best friend, the friends that I had ended up either moving or causing drama and a lot of pain but I did have friends. I have lots of friends now, some are closer than others but I think it's always been pretty easy for me to make friends but I need to work on keeping them as my friends. I've been so blessed with my friends, especially now, I have a great group of girls that all love the Lord and I can laugh with them, I have guy friends that are mature (most of them) and are respectful AND they are fun to be around.

I suppose that it'll all change once I start going to college, I won't be seeing a lot of these people anymore. But I think the Lord will continue to bless me in my relationships.

I'm wondering if someday that I will agree with that statement, I hope not. What do you guys think? Do you agree with the "friends are few..." statement?


jelvistar said...

my 2 cents:
You'll meet people through your life who you make a special connection with. Once made, it doesn't fade with time or distance. There will not be too many of these...but they make life a whole lot sweeter.

Keith M. said...

my two cents. ;D
A friend is easy to get,
A good friend isn't everywhere,
A best friend is rare,
The best friend is only one.

Heidi said...

It depends on your definition of "friends". If you mean the friends that will stick with you through the thick and thin, then yes, those are very few and far between.

I've never had a problem casually calling the people I interacted with "friends". But these "friends" always left in waves -- whenever something huge happened in my life another bundle of them whould just kind of fade out, despite my efforts to keep them. I've since learned that it's best to just enjoy a friendship while you have it, because things change, life changes, and there's nothing you can do about it.

Celeste McGrath said... really depends on what you call a friend.

For me there are different levels of friendship:

I have my best friend:the one who knows the good, bad and the ugly! :)

The good friend: who knows a bit about me, and who I feel safe with and have a great laugh.

Then the casual friend: who knows me on the "hi, how are you?" basis.

I think I agree with the seems the more people I meet the more I love my cat!!!!

Sir Brian The Manly said...

I had quite a few friends that I don't like anymore because they changed in college. Many of them abandoned the Lord and what they believed and they started doing things that I didn't want to do. I didn't abandon them because I they'd gone "evil" necessarily but because I was letting them drag me down with them and it was hindering my relationship with the Lord. Many of the friends I have now though were the same that I had as a kid or in my early teenage years. And my new friends are people like Cory and zAny and Andrew, who appeared in my mid to later teenage years.

Sir Brian The Manly said...

well it's not so much that I don't like them, they're just not good for me, heh. I still think they're funny and stuff.

Father Cory said...

Friends to me are lifelong. Some closer than others, but friendships to me are special gifts from God, and I've never told someone I couldn't be their friend anymore or feared the end of a relationship on my part. I know of a lot of people my age who destroy relationships and friendships due to huge unresolved issues. I don't see friendships as something that can just shatter overnight. If I have a friend, I'll look at them as my friend forever unless they do something bitterly damaging to myself or to my family. Other than that, I might grow apart from an individual, but I don't see myself as ever breaking a friendship.

Friends are cool.

And friends made by posting on an online forum and then meeting them face to face and showing them a $50 and asking them if it's theirs are awesome. Hehe.

Jahothanan said...

In college, it is important to meet likeminded people and make them your inner circle of friends. It may take a little time, but it is worth it in the long run. I think that most of the Christians that leave the faith in college are isolated from other Christians.

I have what could be called friends among the secular people on campus, but I don't tell them everything about me or do I hang out only with them.

As for the statement "Friends are far and few between," I think that God will provide the right people for you when you need them. Not to say that you shouldn't look for good friends, but that you shouldn't fret because you don't have what you think is the perfect friend. Does that help at all?

Sir Brian The Manly said...

(especially if you're the one getting the 50. XD )

jelvistar said...

Timely advice...Elyse is starting college next month. My time at college was a vital part of my walk with God. You can't fake it, because there are people there to call you out. Once you proclaim that you're living for Him, they're watching! But it's a good thing, it makes you choose how you're really going to live. And you can pick up lifelong friends in the process.

Go Elyse!

Elyse said...

Thanks for your thoughts guys.